by Leesa Smith, Kidspot
THERE'S nothing more rude and annoying than people who don't RSVP to invitations - and one mum has had a gutful.
She took to mumsnet to vent her anger about the fact that kids simply aren't replying to the invites she sent out for her daughter's 16th birthday party on the weekend.
"Am I being unreasonable to send a terse note to these families? And maybe an invoice?" she asks furiously.
And this irate mum has given tonnes of notice and follow-ups.
"Invites given out late July before school broke up. Reminder invites by Instagram in August before deadline for paying deposit and ordering/paying for food," she explains.
"(I gave) directions to venue and disclaimers along with paper reminder given out at beginning of this week for invitees."
It's a pretty big deal because her daughter has not had a party for five years.
"I have saved forever to do a fun and unusual activity for her 'friendship group'."
The night before the party, three people told her daughter they are not coming - but still hadn't replied through the proper channels.
"Two have yet to say yes or no. Out of 12 (including my daughter). Minimum for activity is 10," she says.
"When, just when did people become so rude and unfeeling never mind unconscious of wasting money????????????????"
Many mums agreed it was the height of rudeness:
"When people became so entitled they became rude by default."
"Actually sorry that's slightly unfair. YANBU, it is rude."
While others said that now they are teenagers - they need to sort it out among themselves:
"I think at 16 kids make their own social decisions, the parents aren't really actively involved and yes many 16 year olds will not be thinking of the financial implications of their decisions, or possibly even discussed it properly with their parents until the last minute."
"So are 16 year olds rude, sure they are. Seldom intentionally, more they are just self-absorbed selfish unthinking little twats. I know because once I was one and yup, I've had one."
Hopefully she had a fun party regardless of who turned up!
The mum says her daughter is extremely upset about the unwanted stress around her paintballing party.
"Yes DD is very, very upset (and very, very conscious of the cost as we have had to budget very tightly and she has had to forgo any present in order to afford it)."
"I think it unfortunately demonstrates her 'friendship group's' attitude to her. She is useful when people want her and dropped like a stone when they don't. I rather suspect she wanted an activity that was 'exotic' and appealing that no-one else had done to try and ensure that people did actually come.
Then she expressed her parent's fear in the lead up to your child's party.
"My deepest fear is that the ones who have declined tonight are the polite ones and that others simply won't show."